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Adoption Update- Life after IF
Hi folks, I use to frequest this forum fairly often a few years ago while dealing with IF.
LIZ is THE BEST!!!
After a failed attempt at IVF-- I have high FSH and DH has few swimmers that are more like drowners than swimmers anyway-- we decided to adopt from China. We completed our first adoption from China in March/April 2008. We are now in the process of adopting another little girl from China who has a mild medical condition that can be corrected with surgery.
Dealing with IF is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. Of course everyone you know gets
and it makes you feel like dieing inside 
plus the guilt of feeling this way when you are suppose to be happy for your loved ones.
I didn't see most of DH's relatives for a year because so many of the women were PG. Not to mention my best friend. We were honest with everyone and sent them an email letting them know our situation and as embarrased as I was-- I simply could not deal with being around them or the newborns. Folks understood and later on, welcomed me back without making any issues about my absence.
After adopting DD#1 it took some time-- but I can honestly say that now-- all those horrible feelings are gone and I feel GREAT! I love my little girl
, who is fast approaching 3-years more than I could ever express. I am leaving out many details as there is much involved with adoption. When DH and I looked at our options for a 2nd adoption our SW suggested Taiwan. After I looked into that adoption program more, I told DH I was not interested in it as we would most likely be referred a baby under 1-year old and I don't want a baby-baby.
YES, you are reading this correctly. DD#1 was 16-months when we adopted her and she was/is perfect. We got the cuddle of a baby plus she could play! The best of both worlds all at once!
At this time in life, we are getting older and I no longer feel that tug to be PG or have an infant. Actually, DH and I are now using birth control because I told him with the way my life works, now that I don't really want to get
I probably would!We are now waiting to bring home our 2nd daughter from China
who is 14 months younger than DD#1.So, for what it is worth-- that is my story in a nut shell. I have a blog for anyone who would like to read more about my daughter and her adoption and our upcoming adoption. Posts from March 18th 2008 through April 9th are of us in China for our first adoption.
http://overthemoontohome.blogspot.com
Best wishes to all of you! This is a very hard and bumpy road to travel.
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