Frustrated

[Darlene]

Hi Liz

I'm 44 and just completed my second IUI. It failed and I'm really frustrated. Because of my age, I know it's going to be tough, but my RE is confident that I'll get pregnant with IUI. I have a high egg count for my age and my husband has a high sperm count. I do have 1 blocked tube, and both times, my eggs matured on the side where I have the blocked tube.

My husband is extremely supportive and says & does all the right things...I really couldn't ask for a better husband. He's just as heartbroken after hearing the "no, it didn't work" as I am and sits with me while I bawl my eyes out. When I need some space to pull it together, he provides that. I know it's only been 2 cycles, but with my age, I'm just more antsy.

So, the point of my email....I guess I needed to let out some steam because I need to hear positive treatment cycles. I've met wonderful people on INCIID (Annette if you're reading, hey girl!!)...I want to hear about others my age who have gotten pregnant. I feel like I"m the only one out there, but I know I'm not.

I'm going to start going to my local Resolve chapter this month.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Darlene

[LizODonnell]

Hope and Optimism

Hi Darlene - hopefully you will hear from others on the Board who have been where you are. It sounds as though your RE is pretty confident that if you ovulate on the side where you tube is open that things are promising. You don't say how long you have been trying and what sort of problem caused your blocked tube - I know that typically IVF is standard protocol for anything that involves mechanical obstruction however the cost is signficantly higher. As your problem your last cyle appeared to be that you produced eggs on the wrong side of things so to speak I can imagine that it must have been extremely frustrating (understatment). Did this happen with your first IUI also? Attending Resolve is a great place to find support - I always remined people that their will be lots of other stories and opinions shared anfdthat you need to feel confident about what you are doing so that you are not infected by other people's anxiety. It also helps to have a follow-up appointment with your RE to make ongoing plans for the most effective next step - venting is always welcome:-) Kindest to you Liz

[Darlene]

Hope and Optimism

Thank you for responding so quickly, Liz. I appreciate the words.

I m/c in March 08, but had no idea I was pregnant. Apparently, the m/c happened the same week of implantation. I thougth I was just having a really long period, which is highly unusual for me.

I waited to see a RE because we were moving out of state and didn't want to start anything and stop midstream, so when moved I got with an RE in late July of 08. Did an HSG (?) and found out that I had a blocked tube, she tried to open, but to no avail. Started my IUI's in December of 08...had a cyst develop in January, so no treatment, and started with second IUI in Feb.

You're so right, the infection of anxiety/negativity is so hard to hear. It almost makes you think that nothing positive will happen. I was on another board and that's all I heard, so I decided just to stay with INCIID. At least I can talk about other things.

Thanks again...

Darlene