Hi Liz,
I am 42 soon to be 43 in July and have been TTC for over a year.
My DH is really not in favour of having a baby but since I am quite eager, he says he would try naturally and if it happens its ok but does not want me to spend money on IUI or IVF.
He is against the idea of even getting his semen analysis done. I have talked to hime nicely, had fights with him, done everything I could to make him go for his semen analysis but my efforts have been unsuccessful.I have even told him that I would go for artifical insemination with doner sperms but he is against this idea, so I am really in a 'catct 22 situation'.
I am quite helpless and need someone to advise me on how to tackle this issue.
I am quite clear that I DO WANT MY OWN BABY inspite of what my DH says and have got HSG test done and my tubes are clear.I do think I am ovulating though my cycle length varies from month to month from 23 days to 38days.
(My DH says that his semen is ok since a few decades ago he had made his girlfriend pregnant.)
I do know that I need to take some fast action but somewhere deep down, I myself am a bit scared with the thought that suppose I go for IVF or IUI and do not get successful in the 1st attempt, how can I bear the subsequent expense cost for the 2nd or the 3rd attempts.
Its futile to try naturally at my age as its a matter of luck/chance that I may get pregnant naturally.(Incidentally I had a late marriage at 37years age and had been taking BC for 4years.Quit taking BC in Aug 2007 and have been TTC since march 08.)
Please analyse my situation and am waiting for some good advise.
Thanks so much in advance for taking the time to go through my mail.
I am 42 soon to be 43 in July and have been TTC for over a year.
My DH is really not in favour of having a baby but since I am quite eager, he says he would try naturally and if it happens its ok but does not want me to spend money on IUI or IVF.
He is against the idea of even getting his semen analysis done. I have talked to hime nicely, had fights with him, done everything I could to make him go for his semen analysis but my efforts have been unsuccessful.I have even told him that I would go for artifical insemination with doner sperms but he is against this idea, so I am really in a 'catct 22 situation'.
I am quite helpless and need someone to advise me on how to tackle this issue.
I am quite clear that I DO WANT MY OWN BABY inspite of what my DH says and have got HSG test done and my tubes are clear.I do think I am ovulating though my cycle length varies from month to month from 23 days to 38days.
(My DH says that his semen is ok since a few decades ago he had made his girlfriend pregnant.)
I do know that I need to take some fast action but somewhere deep down, I myself am a bit scared with the thought that suppose I go for IVF or IUI and do not get successful in the 1st attempt, how can I bear the subsequent expense cost for the 2nd or the 3rd attempts.
Its futile to try naturally at my age as its a matter of luck/chance that I may get pregnant naturally.(Incidentally I had a late marriage at 37years age and had been taking BC for 4years.Quit taking BC in Aug 2007 and have been TTC since march 08.)
Please analyse my situation and am waiting for some good advise.
Thanks so much in advance for taking the time to go through my mail.
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