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Hi all,
Just looking for a little advice/support... or something. I guess I'm not quite sure at this point. We're still trying to get our heads on straight.
We just finished our latest IVF cycle which was negative. Up to this point we've had 3 failed IVF cycles, 2 IUI cycles, and probably 4-5 cycles involving some sort of stim. Clomid, low dose follistim, etc. None of the treatments have resulted in any sort of positive outcome, not even false positives.
Our problem(s) are mild PCOS and apparently pretty awful egg quality (this last time we retrieved 28 eggs, of which only 2 were viable). Our RE mentioned our best chance for a pregnancy at this point is donor eggs. I can't get past the thought of fathering a child that doesn't also genetically belong to my wife. I don't think she can either. To compound the issue, we are of different ethnicity. Maybe we'll warm up to it, I don't know. At this point we're both pretty uncomfortable with it.
Our RE has not outright told us she won't recommend more IVF cycles (perhaps following a full blood panel, MTHFR mutation test, etc...) and we've asked her pretty adamantly not to string us along to save our feelings. She said she is going to bring our case up at the next practice board meeting and let us know. It sounds like if we tell her we want to go on, she'll agree to it. For now, she gave us a few months prescription to clomid and told us to relax and try with that (better than nothing).
We are exhausted and incredibly sad. We don't want to quit, but we don't want to be set up for failure. We want to move on with our lives but we also want our own GD offspring. We want to consider adoption, but do we adopt from her home country or my home country?
I guess I'm just partly venting, but I really would appreciate any advice anybody could give.
Just looking for a little advice/support... or something. I guess I'm not quite sure at this point. We're still trying to get our heads on straight.
We just finished our latest IVF cycle which was negative. Up to this point we've had 3 failed IVF cycles, 2 IUI cycles, and probably 4-5 cycles involving some sort of stim. Clomid, low dose follistim, etc. None of the treatments have resulted in any sort of positive outcome, not even false positives.
Our problem(s) are mild PCOS and apparently pretty awful egg quality (this last time we retrieved 28 eggs, of which only 2 were viable). Our RE mentioned our best chance for a pregnancy at this point is donor eggs. I can't get past the thought of fathering a child that doesn't also genetically belong to my wife. I don't think she can either. To compound the issue, we are of different ethnicity. Maybe we'll warm up to it, I don't know. At this point we're both pretty uncomfortable with it.
Our RE has not outright told us she won't recommend more IVF cycles (perhaps following a full blood panel, MTHFR mutation test, etc...) and we've asked her pretty adamantly not to string us along to save our feelings. She said she is going to bring our case up at the next practice board meeting and let us know. It sounds like if we tell her we want to go on, she'll agree to it. For now, she gave us a few months prescription to clomid and told us to relax and try with that (better than nothing).
We are exhausted and incredibly sad. We don't want to quit, but we don't want to be set up for failure. We want to move on with our lives but we also want our own GD offspring. We want to consider adoption, but do we adopt from her home country or my home country?
I guess I'm just partly venting, but I really would appreciate any advice anybody could give.
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