A idea for Alison's family.....

[ybab]

I hope I am not way off base.....as I have no idea any type of services they are planning.....
But what about helping her with the headstone? If he is creamated maybe she could use whatever we come up with to make a place that her and the kids could go. Also maybe helping her plant a tree or garden type area for them to go to remember him. Just a thought.....
I know that headstones are so expensive....and maybe if we all chipped in on a headstone....or Urn......maybe she could get a really nice one that maybe she wouldnt have otherwise been able to do????
Just a thought.....
hugs,
MA

Wow - i would never have thought of that! Is there any way to find out if their family would need/want help with the headstone? Love the idea of a tree/garden type area too, b/c the whole family could enjoy/appreciate it. It's so hard to know what would really be helpful right now. Could one of you who has been in touch with Alison possibly bring this up? Not easy, I know. Personally, I'm not crazy about the charm idea...it seems more about us than about Alison and Al, but if I'm in the minority - I'd be happy to send one from New England .

[JodiG]

I love the charm idea and I am willing to buy a charm

and what ever you WONDERFUL ladies come up with along with the calendar idea.


Jodi

[Ihostmom2mitchandnick]

Well

Wow - i would never have thought of that! Is there any way to find out if their family would need/want help with the headstone? Love the idea of a tree/garden type area too, b/c the whole family could enjoy/appreciate it. It's so hard to know what would really be helpful right now. Could one of you who has been in touch with Alison possibly bring this up? Not easy, I know. Personally, I'm not crazy about the charm idea...it seems more about us than about Alison and Al, but if I'm in the minority - I'd be happy to send one from New England .

My thought on the charm is.....whenever she is feeling alone....she could put her charm braclet on and know that she has friends from all over the world to help her through. I didnt think about it being about us......I wanted her to have something to hold in your hand to feel how many of us have pulled together to help her and her family......and I thought is is very personal.

[Katie2]

Mary Ann, you are one of the sweetest, most loving and giving souls I've ever encountered. Every single one of your ideas is beautiful, and I believe they would touch Alison deeply.

If you go through with the charm bracelet/necklace, count me in for a Pennsylvania charm.

I'm not wild about the American Cancer Society contribution - it's a great organization (in fact, I have volunteered for it and donated to it regularly in the past), but the donation just seems so impersonal. And, since Alison has poured her heart out to us, and given us the gift of allowing us to help her through this time, I think we need to give her something more special in return.

The headstone is a very, very sweet thought, too. My only concern is that this decision might already have been made. Is anyone here close enough to Alison to find this out?

But of all your ideas, the one I like best is the tree/garden. I read another post somewhere around here that another INCIID group arranged to have a tree planted for a Mom who lost her baby. The Mom put one of the baby's blankets in the hole when the tree was planted, so it made her feel even closer to her baby when she was near the tree. How beautiful. Maybe we could find a landscaper close to Alison, provide the cash and let her pick out something that would be suitable for her yard and that reminded her of Alan.

Don't know if I'm any help. Just count me, in whatever we do. I sent her a CD of music that has gotten me through some challenging times, along with a note that I hope it brings her the same peace. That should arrive within the next few days.

[WasTarin]

I posted my thoughts here:

http://www.inciid.org/forum/showthre...56922#poststop

[WasTarin]

I understand why you are confused...

You must have clicked on a thread in PNO that was re-directed here.

Dawnn,

Yes, there is another board here on INCIID. It was a dormant board (I believe) that was re-activated so we could brainstorm on ways to help Alison... but in a place Alison herself wouldn't have to read through as she continues to come to PNO for support and to give us updates.

At the top of this page you should see a file structure and if you click on "Special Thoughts for Special People", that should take you to the top most level of this board so you cann see all of what's happening here.

Let me know if you can't find it.

I'm confused, is there a board set up here on Inciid or elsewhere.

[MamaShira]

So maybe some other way for her to display the charms (necklace or shadow box or something else) would be best.

Let me know if you have enough interest for the charm thing.

Also, I contacted CindyTX below about contributing, so hope that will go for something meaningful too.

THANKS MA!

Oh, and where does Allison live (general area)... someone mentioned IL, and if so, I had no idea she lived in my state! We are almost directly west of Chicago.

Terri

Terri, according to Google Maps, she's a little over 5 hours from where I am which would make her about 3 hours from where you are.

[amelia1]

I think that's a great idea. I'm in.