Annette, how was transfer?

[Levana]

Hope all went smoothly and that you are feeling good.

Sticky vibes to you!!!

Levana

[Annette]

Well unfortunately I have to say that it went as bad as it could possibly go...we ended up with no embryos to transfer. And I don't understand why. Tuesday morning we were literally on our way out the door and the nurse called and said that they needed one more day to cultivate. She didn't say they were in any danger, just that they needed one more day. So fine, whatever. Wednesday morning I got out of the shower and the phone was ringing, it was the nurse. She said that most of the embryos were dying and that the rest were poor quality so they wouldn't be doing a transfer. I just don't understand how things can go so bad overnight, it just makes no sense to me. I have sad moments, but I feel like it's not going to change what happened. So I will probably have a post-cycle discussion next week. I feel cheated.

[Amy33]

I'm so sorry hunni that is not fair at all. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[aandp]

Oh, honey...

I am so so sorry! I am totally heartbroken for you.

Please, please be gentle with yourself and take some time for yourself.

And we are here - if you want to talk. (((Huge hugs to you))) I'll be thinking and praying for you.

[Levana]

(((HUGS)))

I am heartbroken to hear your news. Please take good care of yourself in the next little while and remember we are always here if you need to talk.

I have a friend who went through several IVF cycles. Her embryos also stopped developing after a certain a point. The cycle that resulted in her daughter, they actually did two transfers, one at two days past retrieval and one a little later. While they have no idea which embryo actually resulted in their daughter, she is convinced that it was from the earlier transfer. For some reason, her embryos just did better inside than they did out. Maybe ask your doctor about an early transfer if you plan on another cycle.

(((HUGS)))
Levana

[Annette]

Thanks

And thank you Levana for sharing the story about your friend. I really think that may be our case because they seem to do fine until the 3rd or 4th day and then start dying off. I have my post-cycle discussion on Dec. 28th.

[Tiki]

I am new to the forums but I have to constantly remind myself of the reality of my situation even if by some miracle I am able to have IVF. Even as I know its our only hope, the reality is it may not work and that is a terrible, terrible hard pill to swallow.

Annette, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Hopefully Levana's story is encouraging to you. Don't give up.

[augie]

Annette - my heart is sinking as I am reading your update . I will pray for wisdom and peace as you await your follow-up appt and decide what is next.

[Annette]

Thanks Augie, just trying to heal now and get past the shock. It's going to be a long time before we are able to try again.

[Annette]

Thanks Tikicurren

[Levana]

Annette, (((HUGS))).

I've been thinking of you often.

Levana

[Annette]

Thanks Levana I'm still trying to get past the shock. This morning was difficult for me because this would have been the day that I would have taken my first pregnancy test. For some reason I think if we had gone all the way through the cycle and did the transfer, it would have been easier to deal with a negative and move on.