WWYD - DS lost friends Nintendo DS and didn't tell me..

[Gayler]

My son was bringing his friends DS system to him that his friend had left at our house. He should never have put it in his pocket and he ran and it fell out on Thursday. He went immediately and retraced his steps. DS is almost 12 yrs old.

Tonight on Sat. I find out about it.....He knows he has to pay for another one but I am FURIOUS w/him for not telling me as I could have looked for it. A friends parent even went w/him and he did check a couple of times backtracking.

He has only $125 in the bank and that would almost pay for the new system. I feel that since he did not own up w/me about it he should pay for that and the Pokeman Diamond game another $40.

He said he did not tell me because he was afraid I would go "ballistic" which means fussing and fussing at him. (no physical just mental). LOL

What would you do?

Po'd parent in KS....I know that these things happen but shoot he should have told me immediately. At first I thought $75 for him but then I don't know?

All in all it will cost about $180 to replace everything.

[danellsar]

I think if it were me I would offer to pay half now, have your ds pay the other half, and have him work off his debt in chores. He'll learn to be more careful if he has to pay for this.

Also, look on Craigslist or ebay and you may be able to find this cheaper.

Chalk it up to a life lesson on caring for things that you've borrowed.
Ellen

[Gayler]

That was about what it would cost w/Ebay. It is soo new its still high in price.

Thanks

[sbdeveney]

I agree w/ the half price - as long as he's learned his lesson that he needs to tell you the min something happens that is very very important.
And agree w/ working off some money in doing jobs around the house.

Loves, hugs, sucks I know.....
S

[Scarlett]

I'd make him pay for the whole thing. I think he'd learn more that way. Paying half is bailing him out and not makinghim take full responsibility. That's what my parents would have done......

[slp0922]

I would make him pay half from his savings

and work the rest off in extra chores. I would keep track of him working off the money so he knows exactly how much he has left to go.

Susan

[bluerose]

What kind of

Nintendo system fits in your pocket? I thought you ment a game cart. I would ave him pay in full and tell him he can earn some of it back doing work around the house. How old was the game?







QUOTE=Gayler]My son was bringing his friends DS system to him that his friend had left at our house. He should never have put it in his pocket and he ran and it fell out on Thursday. He went immediately and retraced his steps. DS is almost 12 yrs old.

Tonight on Sat. I find out about it.....He knows he has to pay for another one but I am FURIOUS w/him for not telling me as I could have looked for it. A friends parent even went w/him and he did check a couple of times backtracking.

He has only $125 in the bank and that would almost pay for the new system. I feel that since he did not own up w/me about it he should pay for that and the Pokeman Diamond game another $40.

He said he did not tell me because he was afraid I would go "ballistic" which means fussing and fussing at him. (no physical just mental). LOL

What would you do?

Po'd parent in KS....I know that these things happen but shoot he should have told me immediately. At first I thought $75 for him but then I don't know?

All in all it will cost about $180 to replace everything.

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[Gayler]

It was a Nintendo DS - $129 free shipping and the Pokeman Diamond Game $34 plus tax.

I have checked on ebay and no Pokeman Diamond but Nintendo DS w/onxy is about $120 - $129 if you include shipping.

[KaylieS]

I'd go with him pay half and him earn half in chores..partly b/c the money coming out of the bank somehow doesn't seem like enough punishment... I think if he has chores he absolutely has to do to earn the rest that's better - stings more. esp if those chores are hard work AND take place when he'd usually be playing. (like saturdays).

The thing is, it is true it was an accident and the not telling part ticks you off but in a way is understandable as we were all kids once and scared of telling parents. BUT BUT BUT he reallyis better off learning now rather than in 10 years that it really does pay to take good care of someone else's stuff. I mean, running with an expensive system in your pocket that you own is bad enough...but you just don't do that with a friends. He's 12. You want him to learn the lesson now. ALso, I'd emphasize that part of the reason for the chore work is learning to tell you when something happens.

BTW....it's nice to see you posting!!! How is your dd??? I remember when she was born she had the problem w/her neck and arm. Is it all better now?

Kaylie

[Gayler]

Thanks Kaylie,

Yes Alaina is doing much much better. She will always have a problem w/that arm and hopefully it won't progress to arthritis. She can do a lot w/it and unless you were her mom you wouldn't notice the difference.

She has had a speech problem but is a lot better w/help. She is going into first grade next year. WOW it seems like yesterday.

Seth my 12 year old is doing good also..honor roll and fantastic assessment math scores but gets a B in math from not turning in homework when his test scores are almost all A's. Maturity!!!!!!! HE is the culprit for this post.

Reilly is going into 5th grade and is doing great as well and having fun w/her sister.

We went out tonight DH and the girls and I and went riding. We are up to 4 horses but just one the girls can ride and they did wonderfully. My old palomino mare I bought for myself and the family has turned out to be a great babysitter. I rode my 3 yr old gelding I broke myself last year. It was a lot of fun.

Have a great weekend and it is nice to see you as well. I lurk a lot.

Gayle

[KaylieS]

Thansk for the update!! Alaina...I was trying to remember exactly what her name was but knew it was something like that. LOL

I"m glad she's doing so well...but I still think it stinks that it happened to her at all, ya know?

Cassie is also going in to first grade, of course. We homeschooled last year and it was a lot of fun and she did well. She learns very quickly. Next year I"d like to go back to work and am desparately looking for a job, which means putting her in school. I"m trying to find a good montessori school. I did find one in COlumbus that reallyrocks but in the end it will be based on where I find work.

That's so cool that you all can go riding! I haven't been on a horse since early marriage! I know just a little about horses. Took a class when I was around 10 and in girl scouts. AN dthen a couple of times riding since then. My daughter would like to learn but we'll see.

I"m so happy to see you posting!

Kaylie