All good things must come to an end

[Reese14]

As you know, we are getting wonderful support on a weekly basis for DS. Well, no suprise, the doctor is leaving. There will be a replacement, who will report into the same head doctor there (which is a good thing) but things were going so well and this doctor knew her meds and seemed to 'get' DS. Most people don't. I trusted her, and I can't say that about many doctors these days.

I had a meeting with DS's teacher letting her know that with the new (formal) diagnosis of ADHD, I would be requesting an IEP. Though he doesn't have one, she pretty much treats him like he does, which I am grateful for. She asked my permission to have the classroom aide take him for a 2-min daily "stretch/walk" in the hallway at 1:30 because that is when he completely loses it and she doesn't want the positive morning to turn negative for him and for him to leave feeling badly about the day, when in fact it's just the end that he loses focus. She understands my son and cares about him. I left there holding back tears because the reality is, we only have two more months with this amazing teacher who has made this a more successful year for DS than I could have even imagined.

I enjoyed the good year, and will brace for the new doctor...and new teacher.

[Laura H1]

Oh, gosh, that is so stressful! I'm so sorry... I can completely relate to the "knowing" and "trusting"... I'm still in search for a psychiatrist for myself as mine retired at the ripe young age of 50...

(((hugs))) may the new doctor slide right in and be a great fit for you and your ds... and hoping you'll find an amazing teacher next school year, and/or have minimal bumps and pauses as you iron out an IEP...

Laura

[Troy]

Not sure about the doctor, but is it possible for the current teacher to meet with the future teacher to go over some of the issues? I know that many teachers confer with previous teachers when they encounter issues with a student, but being proactive might be helpful.

[Reese14]

Thanks guys

I'll roll with it, like everything else. I truly felt grateful for this year and for all of the successes he has had. I know reality is that we won't have a stellar year, every year. Part of life, part of the rollercoaster.

I am meeting with the teacher and child study team to modify his 504 to add in her recommendations (what worked) this year, to put them in writing for next year. Though DS did not have an IEP, the teacher did many things above and beyond, that are done for children with IEPs. SHe also said she will make sure she has a say in his teacher selection for next year.

So while it is sad that this year is coming to a close, and the changes on the horizon, I continue to be grateful to this teacher for getting him, and caring about him as an individual.

We hope to meet the new doctor while still seeing the other doctor, to get the new one up to speed. Keeping my fingers crossed it is a match for us.

[trek]

What a great teacher your ds has and not only that but the county allowing such support is great. You are blessed. I hope new Dr. is as good as the current one and that next school year yields a great teacher as well

[NancyR]

Reese, yes, change is part of life, however this change is accompanied by caring individuals who are extending themselves to make the change work. It sounds like an ideal situation for change, and now that ds knows how life can be, it will give you an opportunity to start a line of communication about how things are handled in the future!!

If the new doctor isn't a good fit, I am sure there are others on the team you and your ds can "interview". Or, can you see the old doctor privately if the new one doesn't work out?

HUGS!! N

[Reese14]

Thanks you guys

You are absolutely right, DS now knows he CAN be successful and feels good about himself, and now that he has that feeling of "being like everyone else" there is motivation. And the teacher will help with the handover. I am grateful for this year.

Older DS's teacher, ACK. He's an easy kid, can go with any flow and this year was a really bad year for him in so many different ways. Some not the teacher's fault, but some were. I can't wait for him to be out of that class, and neither can he. We discussed the lesson of life as to how some years the teachers are a match, and some they just aren't. This is the first time, for him, we had the "aren't" teacher. Again, part of life, I know.

The current doctor is leaving the country. There are others on the team and I can always call the main doctor who heads the program to switch, if need be. This current doctor did assure me she would find someone with a speciality in ADHD so hopefully she will follow through. I take it day by day and just appreciate the gains, whenever they come around.

Nancy, I tried to email you thru inciid but it bounced back. Can you email me thru inciid?

[Reese14]

Thanks

We were very very blessed this year with Mrs. A. Not many teachers would go above and beyond the way she did, all with a smile on her face.

Though I've heard thru the grapevine that her DS has ADHD, so perhaps that is why she is such an expert and has such amazing compassion for children like my son. Whatever the reason, she has been a blessing this year.

[NancyR]

Hi Reese! Will do! you can also e-mail me thru FB!! Hugs!